The questions this week were provided by Virtual Sinner. Thanks to this long time blogger for such informative and inciteful questions.
Some men who have been treated for prostate cancer are unable to get an erection.
If they were treated with surgery the usual reason is nerve damage.
Question: Have you or your partner ever used a penis pump? Did it work? Was it a turn on or a turn off?
Jake: No. I have never used a pump. I am glad for this question because I never knew that they were for helping impotence. I thought they were for making your penis larger.
Gemma: The same as Jake I have never used a pump. I haven't been with a man who has used one either. However it could make for some interesting variations on foreplay.
If they were treated with radiation the usual reason is damage to the blood vessels. They may have luck with Viagra or another similar medication.
Question: Have you or your partner ever used Viagra, Cilias or similar? Did it work? Were there any interesting side effects?
Jake: Yes I have used these drugs at parties and situations where I might have trouble concentrating on the job at hand or where I feel pressured to perform. I find they help to maintain an erection when you might be distracted. It is also useful when you want to advertise by walking around with an erection. I think that women shouldn't be critical of men who use these drugs because a lot of erection problems are caused by stress or by some emotional issue. Plus nobody wants to be in the situation whereby the most gorgeous woman in the room has just dragged you off to a corner and you can't perform!
Gemma: I suspect that most men use Viagra or Cilias when they attend swinging events. There are probably some men who will happily walk around naked with a massive erection for the entire event. But I feel that the vast majority of men will need some assistance to stay up in the middle of a party where everyone is going at it with abandon. I have spoken more directly to men other than Jake about the use of these drugs and most men have the same opinion. They are great when they work but they are not always reliable. As far as unexpected side effects I haven't really come accross any that are funny as such. Some side effects are a bit scary eg headaches etc because they are a reminder that these drugs can be dangerous and should be used sparingly.
Some men opt for a penile implant like the ones described here.
Question: Do you have experience with implants either as an owner or a lover of an owner? Did it work for you?
Jake and Gemma: Neither of us have ever met someone with an implant or had sex with them. Unless you count breast implants. Neither of us are great fans of them but that is another issue.
If they were treated with hormone therapy they may lose their libido entirely. Please share your story
Jake: I don't really have any stories to share.
Gemma: I don't really have any experience with men losing their libido. Sometimes Jake is less enthusiastic about sex because of stress or some other emotional reason but these times are rare. I have had some issues with libido in my life but that is also another topic that I may share with you all another time.
Some men diagonsed with prostate cancer change their diet or avoid certain foods.
Question: Did you ever change your diet for health reasons? How did it work out? How long did you stay on the diet?
Jake: I have been on a diet to lose weight. It was succcessful but then I went on holdiays! I think I need to do it again.
Gemma: I have a fairly good diet and as a rule I avoid fad diets. The only fruit I eat which has been linked to fad diets and some cancer regimens is paw paw or papaya. Everyone else in my family thinks I am weird but I think it tastes great.
I would also like to add that there is some truth in the rumor that what you eat affects the taste of semen. So guys if you want to be kind to your partner lay off the coffee and
A man who has had his prostate removed does not ejaculate at orgasm. How would you react to a total lack of cum?
Jake: I wouldn't be too happy about it. I would feel like I wasn't completing the act properly. In all honesty I don't know how I would react because I don't know how it would feel exactly. I just hope I am never in that situation.
Gemma: I really don't know. Sometimes I think it would be dissapointing but there would be other times when I would not miss the mess factor at all.
Although removal of the prostate reduces the intensity of the orgasm in the pelvic region some men report feelings in other parts of the body with some describing a 'whole body' orgam. How cool is that?
Do you think a man treated for prostate cancer deserves a blow job?
Gema: I think any man deserves a blow job as long as he is polite about asking for it and is appreciative when he gets one.