1. We learn from our mistakes. What sex or sexual mistakes have you made and learned from, What was the lesson learned?
Since starting swinging I have learned many things from making mistakes. I think the main things that I have learned is communication is one of the most important things for a functional relationship monogamous or otherwise. I have experienced the consequences of not communicating in my own relationship and also the benefits of good communication. Sadly I have also witnessed the effects of bad communication on other relationships in the scene it is awkward to say the least to witness conflict between a couple at close quarters.
2. What risk (sexual or not) would you take if you knew you would not fail?
I just need to point out that if you knew you would not fail then it would not really be a risk. But in the spirit of the question I think the sexual risk that I would take would to be involved in a gang bang. I fantasise about this but it scares me a little to be the centre of attention of so many men. It could be a little overwhelming. On the other hand it could be a whole lot of fun, as long as it doesn't turn out something like this.
3. At what time in your life have you felt most passionate and alive?
My immediate answer to this question is right now. At this moment in time I am more at peace with the crap in my life than I have been ever before. Right not I have a job that is challenging and very stressful but at the same time extremely rewarding. Being in contact with young people constantly makes you see the world from a very different perspective and keeps you young.
4. What one piece of advice about sex would you offer the virgin you?
Your mother and the Catholic Church have got it wrong. Sex is not just for procreation and enjoying sex is something that God did intend you to do. Catholic guilt is an evil that needs to be eliminated from the world because it causes way to much anguish and unnecessary pain.
5. What are you avoiding?
Right now I am avoiding planning my work for the next couple of months. It is not absolutely essential that I do this planning but it is something that has the potential to make my life much much easier and also to significantly improve my performance. I just need to get motivated.
6. By what age should you know what you want to do with your life?
I don't think that there is any point when you should know exactly what you are going to do with the rest of your life. You may make a decision about what you want to do for the foreseeable future but as you grow and the world changes around you your priorities change and so you are never going to ever be really sure of what you are going to do with the rest of your life. Besides, I think that being in the same career for the forty or fifty years of your working life could be incredibly boring and limiting.
Bonus: Do you think you’ve experienced true intimacy in a relationship?
Yes I believe that I have that with Jake now. Most people dont believe me when I tell them that there are absolutely no secrets in our marraige. But there absolutely aren't. It has taken me time but I share everything with him, even the stuff that makes you squirm with embarrassment or the stuff that is icky. He hears it all and it makes us stronger.