Tuesday, April 29, 2014

TMI Tuesday - Fill in the Blanks

This week's TMI was adapted from Friday Fill ins. 

For me it was started by placing the bananas a certain way at my local supermarket.

Behind the tree I sank to my knees in front of him. Sucking the cock of a stranger is something I always wanted to do. 

When it was over he leaned against the tree panting with the force of his orgasm.

Tonight I am looking forward to feeling his thick hard cock inside me. 

Bonus: Describe what this is and what it is used for:

This is the insert from my sex rocker. The rocker is a chair with a changeable insert that is perfectly positioned for self pleasure either in privacy or in the presence of a slected audience. It is the perfect way to wind down after a long stressful day or to tantalise a lover. 

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Thursday, April 24, 2014

Wicked Wednesday - Fantasising about Safer Sex?

This week's Wicked Wednesday prompt is focussed on the inclusion of safe sex practises when writing erotica. This is something that a lot of authors discuss amongst themselves and there are definitely a few different ideas about the topic. Part of the prompt was to write a piece of erotica that incorporates safe sex. I have copped out a little and shared my thoughts rather than an erotic piece of fiction. 

When I read this prompt I had visions of writing a humorous story about a germophobe's visit to a swingers club but somehow I couldn't get the thoughts straight in my head. The reality is that I encounter a lot of people in clubs and also at parties who have issues with cleanliness and for them visiting these places is challenging. This isn't really surprising because if you think about it swingers clubs are full of things like couches and beds that regularly get used for sex and so consequently bodily fluids are leaked all over the place. Kind of like a gym. 

Most good places have a supply of towels that are kept clean and so one way of dealing with things is to put down a clean towel like you do at the gym. Unlike the gym though stopping in the middle of a frantic lust filled stopping of clothing to put down a towel can be kind of a mood killer, just like putting on a condom. A necessary evil, yes but not one that most people want to focus on.

When I first started seriously writing erotica I thought a lot about including safe sex in my writing. I felt that I had a certain responsibility to my readers to tell it like it really was. I felt that writing pieces that didn't include safe sex practices was a little bit irresponsible because it was encouraging people to be involved in acts that could cause them some kind of harm. I posed the question in a forum and the responses I got from other more experiences writers put paid to my fears. The general consensus was that our responsibilities as a writer, if we wanted to see things that way, was to tittilate and spark the imaginations of our readers to a more fulfilling sex life. Not to educate them about safe sex practises. 

I am a writer, and a practiser of a lot of the things that feature in my writing. As part of my own preparations for these adventures I have educated myself about safer sex practices. I know a fair bit compared to some of the people in this world but I am by no means an expert. So who am I to give advice to people about what is safe and what is not? I cannot assume safe sex education as one of my responsibilities because I don't think I am knowledgable enough.

So would I include safe sex practices in my writing? The answer is sometimes yes and sometimes no. A lot of my writing is what is sometimes referred to as 'stroke' as opposed to 'story'. Meaning that my stories are purely to arouse people. Personally I prefer the term 'word porn' because that is essentially what it is, porn with words. I am not a massive watcher of porn but I have not seen a lot of videos where the men are wearing condoms and I have seen all of zero movies that feature the participants donning condoms or fumbling for dental dams before plunging their cock into waiting wet vaginas or burying their face into pussies. And so why should word porn be any different. It's function is to tittilate and arouse. If I am doing it right many of my readers will be needing some private time while they read, they don't want to be bothered with details of safe sex. 

However if I am telling a story of someone's journey then things are different. Stopping to put on a condom and dealing with personal hygiene is part of the journey. Then safe sex should be included in the story it is part of it. My responsibility is to tell the story as it is and maybe to include some themes that I think people need to think about more. 

So to answer the question, is safe sex part of erotica? I think mostly no. And I am sorry no I did not rise to the challenge. Although I am still considering my original idea. Who knows what might come to pass once the idea has ruminated around my mind for a while? 

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

TMI Tuesday - Odds and Ends

1. How addicted are you? You are in a rush, there is no time to make your morning coffee or stop to buy it. However, you can save time and get your “energy high” by brushing your teeth with a caffeine-infused toothbrush. Would you buy and use this product? Why or why not?

This is a really easy one for me. I don't drink coffee at all ever. I don't even like coffee flavoured things like tirumasu so the idea of a coffee-infused toothbrush doesn't appeal to me at all. 

2. You made a sex list of all the things you’d like to do but haven’t done. The list was lost and discovered by your boss at work. He/she ask if they can help you tick a few items off the list. What do you say?
Ummmmm no! For several reasons the main on being that there isn't a single colleague at my workplace that I would consider having sex with. Especially my boss. Eeeeeewwwwwww! 
3. Sex around the house. Have you ever been bent over the kitchen counter or bent a lover over the kitchen counter and fucked? What did you like most about it? What did you like least?
I have been bent over both the kitchen counter and the bathroom sink. We have a large ceasar stone bench which we 'christened' several times. The main issue I found was that it was a little bit high and made the positioning a little bit awkward. The bathroom sink was much more user friendly. But if you really want a bent over fix I would recommend bending over and placing your hands on the ground in front of your feet. MMMMMMM
4. Sexting…How do you really feel about it?
a. Meh? Not my thing.
b. Can take it or leave it, usually have to be begged to do it
c. I like it, it’s like foreplay.
d. Love it! I’m always sending naughty notes and steamy pics.
e. What’s your number? I have a daily sexting list, wanna sign up?
c. It is like foreplay as long as it is actually foreplay. Meaning that I don't like to sext with people who I am not actually going to meet. But once a date is set and confirmed then let the sexting begin! 
5. What do you love to sniff? Why?
There is a rosemary bush growing near the path from my house to my garage. I love to walk past it and stroke the leaves and smell the scent on my hands. It is a really invigorating scent. My kids hate the smell but I love it. 

Bonus: What is it? Explain how you would use it.

Hmmmmm well it is an interesting object. At first glance I thought it would be an interesting thing to use as a kind of massage tool. The feeling of the cold hard rings sliding over oiled skin could produce some interesting sensations. Then I thought about the alignment of the rings and to my slightly twisted mind it could be used as a type of penis adornment which could be quite, well alluring. 
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